A few days ago, out of nowhere something about Nepali Mothers came in my mind. Actually, we must have experienced it in daily basis but we never have realized. We have a myriad of friends; we go to their place, talk with their parents and siblings (not every time but we do). We talk about those sibling’s educational level, father’s job and become familiar that makes us feel more comfortable. Out of all these things, we barely notice the mother/aunt’s educational qualification. We don’t care actually, do we? Why would we do by the way? We don’t have to do anything with that. Moreover, every Mother is so kind and loving that we don’t bother ourselves thinking about their literacy.
I feel that Mothers especially of our generation are mostly illiterate. Ok, they must have gone for primary level schooling but let’s count it as not being educated or literate for now. And we see a lesser number of mothers who are well-educated, have a good job and have a control over financial/management department of a home.
Now, The thing I really want to talk about:
Let’s compare these two types of mothers.
(My apology if this idea sounds crappy or offensive. I’m just jotting down that came into my shitty head. So, please consider and continue reading…)
- First thing first. Illiterate ones are obviously quite conservative and stubborn with incomprehension in their mind. They mostly believe in the tradition that has been adopted by the generations and think that it should be continued like in education, job, marriage, living style and so on. And we all know how adversely it affects a child.
But, we all know how literacy effects in this case. Literate ones have this feeling of ‘change’ for what is going wrong rather than blindly following what’s being followed. They understand how the current generation is running, the load/pressure that a child has to bear during school/college and try to become comfortable with their children accordingly.
- One big difference I have realized is a Mother’s role in deciding the child’s future/career.
Mostly, the illiterate ones wouldn’t dare to interrupt in this decision-making thing, as they don’t have good knowledge about the different fields/sectors one can enter. I, myself have this experience of deciding whatever I wanted to pursue. This is quite a freedom and one can flourish in his/her own way. But, if they do, they’ll just suggest the best one they have seen around the society, which helps to make more MONEY because for them “A successful one earns a lot of money no mater how”. They may not understand that a child’s interest or will-power comes first while choosing a career way. This can be very intruding and irritating situation for a child, which doesn’t help in any way.
Now, the problem with literate ones is they know everything. They know about the market value, scope, future growth, compatibility and so on. So, they won’t let their child decide on his/her own. They will recommend the best one and suggest the possible one (not everyone but most of them do). Maybe they don’t understand that this might be unhelpful despite them knowing that interest and capacity is the key parameters.
See, both of them might be helpful as well as unhelpful in this case.
(Bored? Please don’t be. Keep reading, below are the more interesting ones….)
- A literate one would probably have a better management when it comes to running a family. It may include helping kids in their study, financial distribution and planning as per the requirements and needs. It obviously is the key parameter towards flushing out the ‘male domination’ that has been spreading its roots since ages in our society. This will definitely build a better concept in child’s mind, specially a daughter’s one.
But, in case of an illiterate one, this thing might be completely different. They have to depend on the family’s head (husband) for every planning and management. But, nowadays experience is making them expert in these things, which is a good thing for all.
- Moreover, the one thing that I like the most is; the literate mother/aunt interrogating and having a healthy talk about their child’s friend’s education level, future plans and careers. That seems/sounds so beautiful and appreciating.
(Too much? Ok! Let’s end it here)
- Well, the last point that I want to talk about is definitely ‘Love & Care’.
Do I need to talk about it? I don’t think so.
No matter if she is literate or illiterate, she definitely is loyal, loving and caring. The heart doesn’t need a degree to love. We should admit that a literate one may care their kids with vulture’s eye as per the situation but it doesn’t mean that the care an illiterate one does is not enough. Since the day a child starts blossoming in her belly till her last breath, she doesn’t care about anything but the child’s happiness. That’s why Mother’s love is known to be the greatest and unconditional one.
So, this point will surely neutralise the above ones.
With all these things that I blabbered, I would like to conclude saying literacy is must. It does effect in every nook and corner of an individual’s personality, behavior and attitude. And when it comes to a Mother’s literacy, it makes a huge difference, which directly affects a child’s physical, mental or emotional growth. And the thing called ‘woman empowerment’ that we have been talking about is more likely to be implemented if a Mother is literate who will make her daughter literate and further she will make hers.