First of all, how did this question ‘why are you stil single’ originate in my mind?
I actually found this question in Quora. It took me few days to actually think about it and write the answer. You can find the answer and my Quora profile from here. Now, as the day of the loving hearts, Valentine’s Day is on the verge to kick-off, I thought this might be the right time to post it in my blog for the sake of the lonely hearts.
So, let’s jump straight towards the main content.
Well, I would like to talk about two different conditions separately behind the reason of being single. The first one is being single since birth while the second one is being single after the break up.
The first one first:
There may be a lot of reasons why you are single since birth or why you have never been in relationship so far in your life. Let’s talk about some points then.
- You are an introvert or shy person:
You are not candid enough towards girls/boys or don’t feel comfortable with them. The possibility of being in a relationship is more for those people who are open, closer or frank to girls/boys obviously.
- You haven’t found the right one yet in your life:
This may happen if you are too selective in every conditions. The behavior of tending to choose the perfect one might bring the delay to be in relationship. In such case, you are not actually following your heart but your mind.
- You are not good-looking:
This might be the cruelest thing to mention but this thing do affect, admit it. In most of the cases, your appearance or the personality that the outer world sees is the thing that attracts others at first hand. But then, it’s not the only thing, it needs to be polished with different factors. Plus, the script of life has assigned at least one to any person in the world no matter how you look.
- Love & Relationship may not be your cup of tea:
No matter how your personality is, how frank you are, how you behave or how skilful you are, you simply may not be able to find that thing called ‘love’ in your dictionary. It may be totally ‘out of the box’ thing for you.
- You fear seeing other’s experience:
When there are friends in your circle who have gone through bad/unhealthy relationship or break ups, you’ll inadvertently learn that ‘love and relationship’ is hell. At such times you won’t get a chance to know the fact that it can also lead you to heaven if it’s in pristine form. This will eventually force you to take yourself away from relationship things and stay single.
- Your time zone hasn’t arrived yet:
See, everyone has a time zone set for every happenings. Someone gets into relationship in childhood, some in their adolescent period or some in adult age. If you are single, it’s not necessarily because of any of the above points (others might be there as well) but simply because your time to be in relation has not arrived yet. Who knows, today, tomorrow or some other day?
The second one now:
You have been in relationship before in your life. Maybe once, twice or multiple times. You somehow to protect it. Now, it’s been quite a long time that you are not in relationship again. Here as well, there might be a lot of reasons that may relate.
- Maybe you are waiting for the right person:
After going through a bad relationship before, you might discover that the person you were in relationship with was not perfect for you or you two were not the scripted couple. Now, you may be well aware to not repeat the same mistake and may be waiting for the right or perfect one.
- You fear being committed again:
The troubles and worst times you experienced in your last relationship might create a fear in your heart. A fear of being in love, being committed and going through the same hurdles again. It’s like you are done with this thing.
- You are in a tight circle:
Ok! You might want to get into relationship all over again but there might be your friends, siblings or others who frequently remind you about how awful your conditions were when you were in relation. They might continuously suggest not to repeat the same mistake again or the closer ones might also keep an eye on you to keep you away from a new relationship.
Okay! these are all I could include. Now, if you are single then, decide which reason fits you the most. If you have any more reasons, then feel free to add in my list.
To all the lovebirds out there, Happy Valentine’s Day and
To the single hearts, please be informed that you are actually blessed. LOL 😀